I feel like it is important to learn from mistakes. Our own mistakes...and those that we observe others making. It is probably easier for us to learn from our own mistakes because we know firsthand what the consequence will be. But when we see others making some bad choices, we need to use that as a lesson as well. Being aware of the outcome of whatever situation is a good way to make better decisions. When we as parents make bad decisions for our children, then they are not getting the care and the love they need. When we as people make bad decisions then we are setting ourselves up to get hurt.
My whole mommy life, I have not always taken situations and turned them into something to learn from. In fact, the thought didn't dawn on me that I could learn from other parents' mistakes and help with my own parenting until one day in the doctor's office. It was last year and I was there with my two younger children. My mother and brother went with us that day, and the waiting area was packed. I became aware of an older mom who had a son that was close to the same age as my oldest child. He had found a book and was reading it to her. At first, I thought the moment was nice - until I realized she was making him read. Every time that poor child pronounced a word wrong or had a hard time sounding it out, she made him sit there and read it over and over again maybe twenty times. He would be begging to stop but she would say "Can you tell me what this word is now?" and make him keep reading until they called him back. I felt so bad for him but it helped me to see I need to be more patient with Kim when she reads. I never punished her for getting a word wrong, but sometimes I did have a tendency to sigh and try to hurry her up. At that moment, I was grateful for the lesson that mom taught me -
As I have mentioned in other posts, I am not by no means perfect. So I hope that I have helped others on those days when I have had the kids out by myself and they all wanted to act up at the same time. I am not a very patient person by nature, so yes I do have a tendency to get frustrated when the kids have fits or don't cooperate. It's not something I am proud of, but it is something I am working on. I am learning from my own mistakes - even those from my early mommy years. My main focus is constantly on these lessons I pointed out : not taking frustration out on your children, and be more patient with your children.